Games of deception

The author suggests that communication often breaks down because people play certain games of deception. She suggests that this is done because people believe the games will get them what they want. The three games are: (1) the Felix Unger syndrome (or the martyr game), (2) the phony physician syndrome (or the imposter game), and (3) the Houdini syndrome (or diversion game). All three games are based on two fundamental errors: (1) that no one sees our hidden motives and (2) that we `win´ if we get what we want. It is suggested that, once people learn to recognize these games and understand that they do no good for them or anybody else, they can stop playing them. This is a crucial step toward achieving honest, productive communication, and turning poor relationships around